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As we all gather together at the nursing home to celebrate Por's birthday, it's another year that we get to spend with her! She still recognizes us which is huge. Still feisty, still hates the way I dress, still loves her cheetos and still wants to wear her hairpins! On the drive over, my Dad tells me he is lucky that he still has his mother. And that I'm not as lucky. Jeez, Dad. Thanks a lot! What do you say to that? 
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It's been a few years since I was last in Oahu. And so exciting that I was meeting my friend Koko from Japan! Finally after all of the planning to attend the festival, we were together! I was really hoping to find some peace and closure regarding the passing of my mom. But I didn't. The ceremony itself was nice but too many spectators intermingling with the people grieving and releasing the lanterns. You kinda lose the focus and the whole meaning of the ceremony. But good times with Koko-san. Check out the pics and a short video.     On Tuesday, Dad told me he had a nose bleed two nights in a row. Given his family history of cancer (my grandfather and uncle) of the nose/throat, I was worried! I made an appt with his PCP and they recommended him seeing an ENT doc. So I was able to make an appt with the ENT doc who cares for my uncles and grandfather today.
And NO CANCER!! Whew, I was so relieved I almost cried. I'm writing this as I'm about to board a plane to Hawaii! I'm heading there for the Floating Lantern Festival to honor loss ones on Memorial Day. I'm meeting my friend Koko who is flying in from Tokyo. She said the festival is very healing as you're surrounded by other people grieving. Not sure what to expect as I don't know what I really want from this experience? But hey, it's in Hawaii so can't go wrong there. Last night I was watching Saturday Night Live with Reese Witherspoon as the host. The opening segment had each of the cast bring on their moms and apologizing for something they did when they were young. And I couldn't help myself and started crying. Still miss her. I know that's never going away despite my resolve to move on. Tho if I had to apologize for all that I've done wrong, the list would be a mile long!
I celebrated Mother's Day with my cousin Renee and her mom - Mona, my 2nd Mom! Many many years ago, I couldn't talk to my mom about sex so I called Mona for advice! I don't remember the details of that conversation except that Mona told me I can always call her for any reason at any time. And that still holds true today. I couldn't ask for a better substitute mom. On my way to dinner, I get pulled over for speeding - 56 mph in a 35mph. First, I didn't know where I was going and secondly I had to pee! Anyways, the police officer was all of 16! Jeez....I told him that I was running late for a party and I'm sooooo sorry. I thought my mom is not watching over me if I get a ticket on Mother's Day! Luckily I only got a warning and the officer told me he had to fudge it and mark down I was only going 50mph. Thank you Mr. Westwood policeman! And thanks Mom..... Helen and I visited Por today. For some reason she's always smiling and in good spirits when she sees Helen! She doesn't remembers Helen's name but recognizes her face. Anyways, I bought her some new slippers and had her try it on. Por complained it was too hard and wasn't comfortable. Turns out I forgot to take out the little piece of cardboard! We all had a good laugh!   |
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AuthorI'm fortunate enough to have an awesome job at a biotech company. I'm also blessed to have the bestest of friends in the world - from Castle Square, ATASK, and Jamie Club - you know who you are! Last but not least, I have a family that are always there for me. Categories |
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