On the other hand, I bought a kitten to keep my Dad company. But to my surprise, my Dad doesn't want it. So now I'm stuck with this sweet adorable kitten. I'm not sure how Choco feels - happy for the company? threatened cos the kitten is getting more attention? I guess we'll see.
It's been awhile....I realized I've been avoiding blogging about my life without my mom. But because of Sandy, I'm forced to continue this journey. No more excuses that I'm busy with work. And there's been so many days when I don't want to think about her passing. Just because I hate feeling sad. I know this is just part of the grieving process. It doesn't get easier, if anything it seems like it gets harder. A friend said time heals but I don't think it's true. Time allows you to deal with your every day life so the death of your loved one is not in the forefront of your thoughts. But it doesn't really heal. I think I'll always have this hole in my heart. On the other hand, I bought a kitten to keep my Dad company. But to my surprise, my Dad doesn't want it. So now I'm stuck with this sweet adorable kitten. I'm not sure how Choco feels - happy for the company? threatened cos the kitten is getting more attention? I guess we'll see. And for those wondering how my Dad is doing - well, he hangs out at the Mason Club daily, playing cards and MJ. So he's keeping busy. But I had dinner with him at home the other night and he was telling me he was having a hard time sleeping worrying about Mom. He got emotional. And here I thought he was getting over her. But....anyways, here's a picture of us having dinner at Ken's.
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Dad cooked dinner and we spent a quiet night on Mom's bday. No frills, we just lit some incense to let her know we're thinking of her. We miss you...no doubt.
We decided to visit my cousins, Nancy and Brandon in MD this weekend. We were here last year to celebrate Mom and Dad's birthdays. It's bittersweet cos I can feel my mom everywhere. We're doing all of the things we would normally do when she was here. Eating clams casino and whipped cream fruit cake from Whole Foods, and outlet shopping! She was always so happy here. Nancy and Brandon catered to her so she felt special and at home. And more importantly, they never complained about her smoking. Or anything else for that matter.
It's just not the same without her!! But we're making new memories and we know she's here with us in spirit. Just left the memorial held at the senior housing apts where my parents live. It was for folks who passed away recently. Laura and Maxine, the Manager and her assistant spoke very highly of Mom and how she always had a smile on her face. And that they attended their very first Chinese wake. I'm so honored that they chose to go. Another woman got up and said she and my Mom had a wonderful connection. And that Mom never complained. Which is so true.
I couldn't stay to listen to the others. It's just too hard and I think it's starting to sink in. I wasn't holding it together very well and needed to get home. I also think my Dad is having a hard time as he keeps bringing up that he thought he would have a few more months with her. But realistically, she would have been in pain and who wants that? I miss her so much it hurts..... |
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